Wednesday, October 20th, 2021


Online Date Wants to do Background Check on You


(Online Dating Newsletter – You Make the Call) You’ve hit it off really well online with someone you’re excited to meet. However, the night before your first date you receive an email from the person asking you for your full name because they want to do a background check on you. What do you do?

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7 Responses to “Online Date Wants to do Background Check on You”
  1. Ashley says:

    In this day and age, you can never be too sure. He could use your name for a background check, but he could also use it to to some ID theft, who knows what other information he has on you. It all comes down to trust and instinct. Trust your gut, it is never wrong. Proceed from there.

  2. Kat says:

    I’d recommend to him that we meet in person first, and after we meet, if we’re BOTH interested in seeing each other again, that we then exchange information and both have a background check completed.

  3. jesse says:

    An easy solution to this would be to meet somewhere public. This would eliminate any worry from the partner that you might do something awful. A lot of people have a criminal record from when they were young or from something stupid they did. Requesting a background check right away might put her right off even though your actually a really good person

  4. Allan says:

    Asking for a full name in order to do a background check before the first date is a bit extreme, in my humble opinion. The person asking that so soon would throw up red flags for me. I could see it after a couple of dates, but not before a first date in a public area.

  5. Atreyu says:

    I would tell her that first we should meet and then, if I can a possibility of our relationship growing further, then I would consent it. A background check before the first date is going a little bit overboard.

  6. Rhonda says:

    I think asking and/or agreeing to a background check before you even meet the person is quite excessive and would definitely be a red flag for me as I would be worried about what other things someone could do with that information.

  7. Faraz says:

    If this type of thing happen at the last moment anyone would be annoyed. The first thing on the person’s mind would be why he/she wants his personal information at the last moment? I would consider such type of person fraud or untrustworthy.

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