Comments on: Chemistry via Email but Not on Phone

By: Lori

Lori — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 15:40:45 +0000

It is important to explain the situation, because chances are that you are both feeling the freeze. When it comes to email, it is easy to be witty and charming, but over the phone some peoplejust tend to get nervous. So, what’s with the silence, is it nerves?

I suggest giving it some time to get over the nervest that can come with the first phone call. Never hang up abruptly and avid contact!

By: Kim

Kim — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 05:46:28 +0000

I would probably try one more phone call to see if it was just a bad day. Maybe they had a rough day at work, or were tired. But, if the chemistry isn’t there on the first or second call…I’d figure it wouldn’t be there in person either.

By: Krish

Krish — Sat, 14 Feb 2009 08:12:45 +0000

I would say email is a one-way communication as we wait for some time to receive a reply from the receiver. But speaking over the phone is interactive and it is common for many of us to feel shy, if we are speaking with a new person (date). I am sure that we could establish a good chemistry after a couple of phone calls.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 00:34:02 +0000

This happens to me all the time because I hate small talk on the phone. I just say what I need to say and that’s it. In person is a different story thought, so I just tell them that i hate talking on the phone and would rather talk in person. That answer makes the person feel like you want to get to know them better and it makes you look interested.

By: falguni1

falguni1 — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 07:45:38 +0000

In such cases cases when there is no chemistry on phone people often doubt that is this the same person who wrote the emails. So what really matters in real life is the chemistry on phone not emails.

By: Noel

Noel — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 05:38:38 +0000

First conversations are always awkward. I’ll still give it a shot. I think “instant chemistry” is overrated anyway. Once you get comfortable with each other (via several phone calls or a couple of face-to-face meetings), that’s when the real fun usually starts.

By: Barbara

Barbara — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 03:52:05 +0000

I would try a few more calls before meeting in person. It could be a lack of chemistry, or it could be that both are just being shy. If the chemistry is still missing after four or five phone calls, I would call the whole thing off.

By: Allan

Allan — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 23:54:46 +0000

In my case, having good chemistry online but not on the phone would not change my plans for meeting the person. The fact remains that you don’t yet know what type of chemistry you have face-to-face and you won’t know until you go on a date. I’ve had chemistry online and not in person and the other way around. It’s strange the way it all works.