Wednesday, October 20th, 2021


Online Dating Photo Not Attractive to You


(Online Dating Newsletter – You Make the Call) You’ve been communicating with someone who doesn’t have a photo posted on their profile. After a few weeks of great communications you are emailed a photo. The person doesn’t look anything like you thought and there doesn’t seem to be an attraction on your part. What do you do?

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8 Responses to “Online Dating Photo Not Attractive to You”
  1. Debbie says:

    After seeing the picture I would ask the person when the picture was taken and under what circumstance (it could have been under bad lighting, or outside etc.).
    I think I would still go on the date. I understand there has to be something that attracts you to that person, and you just might find it at your meeting. If after the meeting and I still didn’t feel an attraction, I would let them down easy, asking if we could be friends.

  2. Allan says:

    This is easy. Don’t communicate with someone who doesn’t have a photo and you won’t set yourself up for being disappointed.

  3. Barbara says:

    I wouldn’t talk to anyone who did not have a photo online already. In the past I found out that I was talking to a “woman” instead of a man, and this kind of made me more cautious in my online dating communications. If I ever have a need to use an online dating service again, the man better have a photo already posted.

  4. Noel says:

    Why would you establish communication with someone who doesn’t have a photo in the first place? One of the beauties of online dating is you can subtly eliminate someone who’s not your type immediately – and the photo will always have a big reason to do with that.

  5. Krish says:

    In the first point, I wouldn’t have a deep relationship with someone without a photo profile. Considering this as a hypothetical question I would try to slow down the communication frequency if I am really frustrated after looking at the photo.

  6. Kim says:

    I have a problem with being a little too superficial. But, looks do count to me. I can’t be interested in someone that I don’t find attractive. I have tried to force myself to be with a nice person that I wasn’t attracted to before, but I had to end it when I couldn’t get past their looks and had trouble kissing them.

  7. Lori says:

    You know, I don’t think that I would talk to someone that did not have a photo on their profile, or was not willing to send a photo quick into the conversation. Even those that don’t post out of embrassment or whatever reason must have photos to send.

    This is common, and can be avoided by getting a photo! Does this make you shallow? No!

  8. Doug says:

    The person who doesn’t have a photo posted on an online dating site knows they are not attractive, otherwise they would already have a photo. They are the ones setting themselves up, and these type of people usually have low self-esteem or other “issues”. This is precisely why I never, ever communicate with these people. It is a common courtesy to have a photo no matter how great your personality is! Just my opinion…thanks

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