RELATIONSHIP
TIP OF THE WEEK #008
ADMIRE YOUR PARTNER'S DIFFERENCES
It is always important to be
able to accept that your partner is different than you. After all, difference
is a big part of what makes a relationship lively
and exciting. What makes a relationship grow even stronger is the ability to
not only accept these differences but actually develop admiration of the ways
in which your partner is different from you. In his book "Relationship Rescue:
A Seven Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your Partner" author Phillip
C. McGraw, Ph.D (aka Dr. Phil) discusses the importance of creating value in
your partner's differences:
"This is a different part of your programming from
simply accepting your differences. You need to go beyond
just accepting your partner, and actively work to create
value in the way in which your partner is different. By
doing so, you make a conscious commitment to develop and
nurture your admiration of your partner. Focus on the admirable
qualities so you can build on them. By becoming your partner's
greatest fan, you will routinely choose to focus on the
things about him or her that are unique and inspiring.
You didn't choose this person because they were a hapless
loser, you chose them because you saw things in them that
moves you in a positive direction. Fan the flames of respect,
honor, and admiration on a conscious level and work to
be proud of your partner. Remember, you don't need to understand
or agree with your partner's style oro nuances to appreciate
them." (SOURCE: Relationship
Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting With Your
Partner, by Phillip C. McGraw, Ph.D - in bookstores
everywhere)
