RELATIONSHIP
TIP OF THE WEEK #007
COMMITMENT MEANS COMPROMISE
A healthy relationship is one
in which one partner makes equal decisions
with the other partner. In the book "He's Scared, She's Scared: Understanding
the Hidden Fears Sabotaging Your Relationships" authors Steven Carter and
Julia Sokol offer advice on how to recognize the control issues in a relationship:
"Commitment means compromise. That means learning
how to live with and make equal decisions with another
person. If one partner controls a relationship, financially,
emotionally, or otherwise, the partnership is unequal.
So try to understand the obvious and hidden ways in which
you attempt to control your relationships and the ways
in which you allow yourself to be controlled. If control
plays a large part in your life, you might want to consider
exploring its possible psychological origins. You may need
professional help in protecting yourself from controlling
partners, or you may need guidance in learning how to manage
your own impulses to control." (SOURCE: He's
Scared, She's Scared: Understanding the Hidden Fears Sabotaging
Your Relationships, by Steven carter and Julia Sokol
- in bookstores everywhere)
