ONLINE DATING TIP #006
REMEMBER THE 20 TO 1
RULE
Most people get frustrated when they send out a message and get no response.
After this happens several times, a person can begin to feel that something is
wrong with them and/or their profile. But this isn't the case, because it happens
to most everyone. Keep in mind the 20 to 1 rule. In general it takes 20 inquiries
to 20 different people for you to get 1 response. As long as you see this as
the norm, then you can be confident in knowing that you don't have the plague.
:-)
There
are some things you can do to increase the 20 to 1 ratio:
1)
Make your message more personal. Specifically ask questions
based on things you read about the person in his/her
profile.
2)
Don't be vulgar or rude. The biggest complaint from
female online daters is that most men send vulgar,
crude, rude, or stupid messages. Make sure your message
is respectful, personal, and intelligent.
3)
Don't talk about yourself too much. The focus of your
first inquiry should be to find out about the other
person and not provide your life's story.
4)
Make sure you have great action photos of yourself
posted. See the July
14, 2004 Online Dating Tips column for great tips on getting better photos.
5)
Make sure your profile is interesting. Avoid cliches
and be creative in the way you write so as not to sound
like every other profile online.
Using
the above five tips, you may triple or even quadruple
your 20 to 1 ratio and find more people responding to
your inquiries. Remember, if they find you interesting
or intriguing then they are more likely to respond. Make
sure your profile is stimulating and that
your photo does the job of getting them to read your
profile. (SOURCE: Online Dating Newsletter - www.onlinedatingnewsletter.com)
