Wednesday, September 22nd, 2021


Three Dating Self Improvement Tips


(Online Dating Newsletter) People who take the time to improve their lives make much better dates and relationship partners. When you learn to master who you are and how to meet the needs of others you become a much more attractive person.

Here are three self-improvement tips that will make you a better person and a better person  to date.

1) Learn the art of listening.
Many dates are ruined when one person talks a lot more than the other. Work on improving your listening skills by asking more questions, asking followup questions, and showing a genuine interest in what others say. For more tips, read the article, “Listening: An Essential Part of Communication“.

2) Learn self-discipline.
Self-discipline is the art of being able to overcome your fears through action. It is something that anyone can master if they put the time and dedication into it.  You need to change your thinking to that of failure being a success. The difference between a self-disciplined person and one that’s not is that a self-disciplined person will learn from their failures and move forward while someone without self-discipline will give up.

When you look at successful people from the past, they all used failure to master success. Edison failed many times with the lightbulb, but kept moving forward till he got it right. Walt Disney was told that the idea of a theme park for families was a terrible idea, yet even with the obstacles that came with building Disneyland, he pushed forward. To master self-discipline, admit what you’re afraid of: “I’m afraid of rejection” “I’m afraid of succeeding” (some people are), “I’m afraid something bad will happen”.  Once you admit you have these fears, you can move forward and tackle them one by one.  You will use your fears a stepping stomes to conquering them.

To improve your self-discipline you need to become uncomfortable. Break up your daily routine so that it isn’t the same. Accept that changing your routine is a good thing. When you walk down the street, smile at people. If you usually look down, look straight ahead.  Some people are afraid what others might think of them. What do you want people to think of you? If you look down all the time they will think you are insecure. If you look them in the eye and smile, give firm handshakes, and strike up conversations, they will think you are confident. You become the type of person that you portray. So become who you want to be.

3) Use Positive Affirmations.
You’ve probably seen some of those funny Saturday Night Live skits where the guy stands in front of the mirror and says, “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and dog-gonit people like me.” That may seem extreme, but the concept isn’t far off. Research show that positive affirmations reinforce behavior and a person’s attractiveness. If you go to and type in “affirmations” you’ll be presented with books, CDs, and even reading cards that have mind-reinforcing statements on them. Read the affirmations daily (or listen to them if you have them on an audio CD). Believe what you read. Use them to reinforce positive behaviour. Want to lose weight? Write down an affirmation like “I exercise daily to improve my health and looks”. Notice that the affirmation was in present tense. That’s to help you take action. Read it daily then exercise. It reminds you why you are doing it.

Put a daily focus on the above tips and after several weeks you’ll see a massive improvement in yourself and you’ll become a much more attractive person to date.

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5 Responses to “Three Dating Self Improvement Tips”
  1. greensmyle says:

    I read this book before about “how to make people like you”. I think it also fits in here as one of its suggestions was that if you want others to like you, refrain from talking about yourself or your achievements. Instead, focus on the other person’s interest and likes, making them feel that they are important.

  2. Sarah says:

    The problem I find when I go on dates is the fact that some people may be too quiet. That is in direct opposite to some people that may talk too much. When someone is too quiet, I makes me wonder what they are thinking about and even if they want to be here at all. Then it can get quite uncomfortable.

  3. Will says:

    Although it can be hard to find the happy medium within a date of talking too much, or talking to little Sarah – I think that eventually you find the comfort level of the date (Hopefully it just doesn’t take all night!)

  4. Rhonda says:

    “How to Win Friends and Influence People” is a classic book that everyone should read.

    I find people who are continually trying to improve themselves far more attractive, as friends and lovers. Someone who has just settled in life is a complete turnoff.

  5. Atreyu says:

    Always be Positive!

    The power of our brain is amazing, think and believe that you will have a good time on your date and most probably that will come true…so long as you don’t do something rash or stupid of course!

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