Saturday, September 18th, 2021


How Long Should I Wait After Breakup to Go Back Online?


(Online Dating Newsletter)

Dear Dating Advice,

I’ just broke up with my girlfriend of four months and I was wondering how long I should wait before putting my profile back online? ~ trying to be considerate

Dear Trying to be Considerate,

First, I’d like to commend you on taking this into account. To many times, people will put their profile back up the same day they break up, giving no consideration to the relationship they were in and the person they broke up with.

Online dating has made it easier than ever to meet new people and to form relationships.  Some believe that it has also made it easier for people to run away from a relationship at the first sign of trouble instead of trying to make things work out.

In the case of being in a relationship for several months, it might be a good idea to wait at least a couple of weeks before going back online. It’s also a considerate (but not mandatory) idea to use a different online dating service than the one you met the person on.  No doubt, when you initiate a breakup, one of the first things the person you broke up with will do is go online to see if you’ve reposted your profile. And if you have, this just adds an extra insult to the pain the person feels because they think you didn’t take the relationship seriously.

There have been some people who have waited several months before going back online after a serious relationship from someone they met online. They’ve taken the time to apply self-improvement techniques to become a better person. It’s always good to take time, after a breakup, to analyze some of your own faults and seek ways to improve before going back online. It makes you a better person. And giving consideration, like you have done, to the other person before putting your profile back online is a great quality as it shows you are thoughtful. Good luck to you.

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3 Responses to “How Long Should I Wait After Breakup to Go Back Online?”
  1. Rhonda says:

    I guess it would depend on WHY you broke up. If someone cheated then the hurt feelings already makes the situation a bad one.

    Regardless of why you broke up it is a good idea to wait awhile before jumping back into dating, it will help you avoid that dreadful “rebound” relationship that never ends well.

  2. Faraz says:

    In my opinion one should at least wait for a week or two before going online. If your love is true he/she will definitely try to be in touch with you. If you were very serious for that person you should wait a little longer, its hard to find true love. Its my believe that if the person you love, really care about you he/she will definitely come back to you.

  3. wilkinson says:

    I agree with Ronda. The time it takes to get back into a relationship, online or off, really depends on the circumstances of the break up, and even this varies. If you were cheated on you would probably be a bit hurt, and off dating for awhile, or on the other hand you may want another partner in spite of your previous partner. There should be no official time limit to getting back into relationships. It’s a case to case basis

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