Tuesday, October 17th, 2017


    

How Should a Date End? Hug, Kiss, Handshake?

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(Online Dating Newsletter) Dear Dating Advice,

What is your suggestion on how a first date should end? Should it be with a hug, a kiss, a handshake or what? Thanks for offering your opinion. ~enddate

Dear Enddate,

The way a date should end is purely based on how well the date goes. Here are some examples:

If a date didn’t go to well and you didn’t feel any chemistry then a hand-shake is appropriate. This is probably the only time this is the preferred option.

Research shows that the majority of first dates, from people who met online, take place at a coffee house like Starbucks.  These dates give you the chance to get to know each other in a short period of time. If the date goes well and you feel there is chemistry then a hug is appropriate. A hug indicates that you feel a connection. Also, if you were the one that initiated the first date then it is also appropriate to ask the person on a second date.

Some first dates actually end in second dates. This is a case where the chemistry is so strong that neither one wants it to end so they instead change venues (i.e. go from a Coffee House to dinner). Depending on how strong the chemistry is, how long you got to know each other online, and how long the date lasts, you’ll feel if it is the right moment for a kiss (whether it be cheek or lips).

If you are in search of a meaningful relationship, you should never have sex on the first date no matter how much chemistry you felt. Going too fast too soon ruins potentially great relationships and changes the focus from getting to know each other mentally to getting to know each other physically, removing the most vital aspect building a meaningful relationship.

Good luck!

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3 Responses to “How Should a Date End? Hug, Kiss, Handshake?”
  1. Rhonda says:

    There is no “right” answer on how to end a first date. Though your advice on not having sex is dead on, it sets a bad tone for the rest of the relationship. If you want a real relationship then you must allow a friendship to build before acting on chemistry.

  2. Will says:

    What about those dates in which you want to get away from the person as quick as possible and there is zero chemistry. I guess politeness would defer to a handshake – which is only more awkward than one person going in for the hug – or the kiss!

    Embarassing.

  3. Atreyu says:

    If you think your relationship can grow then I would go for a hug. It’s not as formal as a handshake but not as private as a kiss. Yup, hug is the way to go!

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