How Many People Use Online Dating Services?
(Online Dating Newsletter – Dating Advice)
Dear Dating Advice,
How many people use online dating services and why can’t I find one of them?
Online Dating Magazine estimates that more than 20 million people a month visit online dating services. But not all online dating services are alike. The majority of online dating services force a person to pay in order to respond (and sometimes even read) a communication they receive from a paying member. If you are sending out emails in hopes of communicating with someone, there are several obstacles you face before you even hit the send button:
1) Most services don’t tell you if the person you are communicating with is a paying member or not.
2) Some services don’t tell you when the person last logged on. For all you know, the profile could be outdated and the person long gone.
3) On general online dating services like Match.com, the majority of users are men. So if you’re a man, the numbers don’t work in your favor. Likewise, on relationship services like eHarmony, the majority of users are women. Why? Because many men don’t like taking the 1-hour compatibility and personality test and most men prefer to search through a whole site, versus only people they are matched with. Select a type of service that works in your favor.
Online Dating Magazine says that for every 20 emails you send out only one person will respond on average. There are, of course, things you can do to increase this ratio:
1) Consider using an online dating service like LavaLife that allows non-paying members to respond for free. Most charge to read emails and respond. LavaLife doesn’t.
2) When sending your first communication, ask some questions based on what the person said in his/her profile. Make the email more about the person you are communicating with versus you.
3) Be positive. Your username, header message, and profile say a lot about you. By nature, humans are mostly attracted to positive and uplifting people. Does your profile paint you as someone uplifting or someone who is a downer. Which of these sounds more interesting?
Header: Lonely person looking for love
Profile: I’m recently divorced and hate being alone. Everyone says to try online dating, so here I am…
Header: Bright Spark Looking to Ignite Shared Experiences
Profile: I appreciate the little things in life and am looking for a fun and positive person to share those things with…
You get the idea. Your attractive level begins with the approach you take with both your profile and your communications. Be positive, be fun, and enjoy the experience.
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