Saturday, September 18th, 2021


Dating Advice – Too Many Dates


(Online Dating Newsletter – Dating Advice)

Dear Dating Advice,

I’ve been doing online dating for awhile and I absolutely love it. However, sometimes I feel overwhelmed by it and the number of people I’m meeting. Is there a such thing as scheduling “too many dates”?

If the number of dates you are scheduling interferes with your ability to develop a relationship then you are going on too many dates. We recommend that you don’t schedule more than one date a week, and here’s why.

When you schedule more than one date a week, your mind is not focused on the individual you are going on a date with. On your first date you will be wondering how your second date will stack up and on your second date, you’ll be comparing it to your first. Your attention is divided, not focused. It’s important to give each individual your undivided attention and that means scheduling only one date at a time.

There is an emerging group of online daters called Professional Online Daters or Serial Online Daters. These are people that are so busy going on so many dates that they become addicted to the process. They rarely enter into a relationship and if they do, they bolt back to online dating at the first sign of trouble. One of the major keys to a successful relationship is being able to work through relationship issues. If you can’t master that process, then online dating is all you’ll ever have versus a truly significant relationship with someone that becomes your soulmate for life.

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4 Responses to “Dating Advice – Too Many Dates”
  1. falguni1 says:

    I am against the idea of too many dates. What happens is that you tend to get confused and people just take you lightly because they feel you are not serious enough.

    It is better not to date at all than to date so many people.

  2. Noel says:

    Depends on what you’re after. Dating A LOT is fun and you’ll definitely enjoy it the first couple of times. After a while, though, your predilections will naturally evolve and you’ll want to narrow your pool choices to a few worthy people.

    The important thing here is to recognize when it’s time to slow down a little and smell the roses among your midst, instead of just meeting new people non-stop.

  3. Kim says:

    I do think that you can date too much. You run the risk of going through people so fast that you don’t take the time to recognize that you have met the person that could end up being the perfect match. Sometimes you need to slow down and smell the roses.

  4. Rhonda says:

    I’ll play devil’s advocate. If practice makes perfect then dating lots of people will help you work out the kinks you may have about dating. It will help you get over your nerves and hopefully help you figure out what you really want from a relationship.

    Too much of anything can become a problem but dating too much really will only hurt your wallet.

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